Wedding Guidelines

Revised 2017

Christian marriage is an important sacrament of the Church, and is intended to support and encourage the two people involved.  The Church participates in as a sign of love and a desire to bless the union of two individuals.


Christian marriage is not to be entered into lightly or unadvisedly.  To that end, the Church commits itself to preparing couples for marriage, and to supporting them long beyond the day of the wedding.  Marriage is not a private affair, but a public proclamation of the love between two people, and the blessing of Christ on that union.



Weddings at Episcopal Church of the Resurrection are expected to conform to the normal practice of the Episcopal Church, although we welcome members of other denominations and faiths to be married at the Episcopal Church of the Resurrection.  We do expect that our traditions and practices are respected, as we will always respect the practices and traditions of other bodies.  In cases where clergy of different denominations are co-celebrating, respect for each tradition is expected.


The Church has been performing weddings for more than 2000 years, and our experience and traditions inform the best ways to do liturgy.  Please do not ask us to do things that do not conform to the practices of the Church.  Weddings in movies and on television do not often conform to Church practices.  Wedding coordinators, who are not members of the Episcopal Church of the Resurrection staff or Altar Guild, may not participate in decisions about the liturgy.  They may consult on receptions held and Episcopal Church of the Resurrection.


Couples must participate in pre-marital preparation with the priest who is to be the celebrant at the rite.  On occasion, when appropriate, pre-marital preparation may be done elsewhere, a written report from the counselor or priest will be submitted to the celebrant at least 30 days before the wedding.  In cases where one or both members of the party have been previously married and are now divorced, the couple must conform to the requirements of the policies of the Bishop of Western Missouri regarding remarriage of divorced persons, and the canons of the Diocese of Western Missouri and the Episcopal Church of the USA.  The polity of other denominations will be respected.


Episcopal Church of the Resurrection Clergy are responsible for scheduling weddings at Episcopal Church of the Resurrection.  The Priest is responsible for approving the scheduling of weddings by other clergy.


Extra decorations for weddings are to be limited.  Photographers must conform to the rules of Episcopal Church of the Resurrection and the celebrant.


Episcopal Church of the Resurrection Clergy will coordinate scheduling and record keeping for all weddings at the church.



Wedding Checklist

  • Decorations:

    • No decorations should be put up before the day of the wedding unless special arrangements have been made with the church office due to other possible services.

    • A white aisle runner may be used.  It must be rolled out just before bridal party enters sanctuary, and must be removed at end of service, before guests are dismissed.

    • If flower petals are to be dropped, artificial flower petals may be dropped only on runner and must be picked up when runner is removed.

    • Arrangements of flowers are the responsibility of the bride/groom.  The couple must make arrangements with an Altar Guild representative at least 30 days prior to the wedding date.  The couple may order the flowers through the Altar Guild or elsewhere, but the arrangements must conform to Altar Guild standards.  It is requested that the flowers are left for the next Sunday’s service if wedding is on Friday or Saturday.

    • Decorating of chairs, etc., must be done in consultation with the celebrant and Altar Guild.  No tape, pins or staples may be used to secure decorations to chairs or walls.  (Pews have small hooks on ends for attachment of things.)

  • Photographers

    • The photographer must contact the celebrating priest at least one week prior to the wedding date to discuss the church's arrangements.

    • No flash pictures may be taken during the ceremony.

    • Photographers are asked to respect the view of all members in the congregation and to be inconspicuous.

    • The clergy and wedding party will pose for pictures either before or after the service.

  • Church Staff

    • The Altar Guild will help arrange items for the liturgy.

    • The celebrant (and any assisting clergy) will work with the couple to make this a special day.

    • The Organist/Choirmaster is in charge of music and a couple shall meet with them to discuss music for wedding.  Church organist is only person who can use any and all musical equipment to include organ, piano, sound system.


  • Organist

    • Organist fees are $80.00 to $125.00, depending upon the amount of time required for preparing for your wedding.  This fee includes:

      • A planning consultation (approximately 1 hour).

      • A rehearsal with vocalist(s) and/or instrumentalist(s) (1/2 to 1 hour).

      • The wedding rehearsal (1/2 to 1 hour)

      • The wedding service (approximately 1 ½ hours).

    • An additional $20.00 per hour is recommended for extra rehearsal time required.  Expenses such as corsage, invitation to rehearsal dinner, and reception are not required.  If you request instrumental or vocal music that is not in the organist’s library, it should be provided by the bride/groom.  In order to abide by Federal copyright laws, original copies are required – not photocopies.

  • Sound System - Please contact the Episcopal Church of the Resurrection Organist for information regarding the sound system.

  • Building Use:

    • The church shall be opened two hours before the wedding to accommodate the wedding party.  If more time is needed please contact the church office for special hour extension.

    • The sanctuary will be closed 1 hour after wedding.

    • If undercroft is to be used all areas must be returned to standard set-up for next day services/activities.  See office for standard set-up.

    • Members of Episcopal Church of the Resurrection do not pay a fee for using any of the church for a wedding.

      •  It is suggested that a donation be given to the Altar Guild and to the Sexton fund for cleaning.

      • All areas must be returned to standard set-up for day’s service/activities.

    • Non-Members of Episcopal Church of the Resurrection the following fees must be paid in advance:

      • Sanctuary and class rooms for wedding party to gather (no kitchen or undercroft use)  $75.00 per hour

      • Sanctuary, class rooms and undercroft (no use of kitchen) day rate  $350

      • Sanctuary, class rooms, undercroft and kitchen day rate $600

      • Fees do not include any required custodial set-up and/or cleaning up which will be charged at $12.50 per hour per person required for cleaning.  A deposit of $75 will be required to pay for this fee – balance of fee will be returned to payee and/or a bill will be issued to request payment for extra cleaning.

  • Liturgy

    • The marriage liturgy is the responsibility of the celebrant

    • The couple will review the liturgy with the celebrant and make choices where appropriate.

    • Additional liturgical officers will be used as necessary (readers, deacon, acolytes, etc.)

    • It is assumed that all weddings will include Eucharist.

    • In cases where it would not be appropriate, the Eucharist will not be celebrated. (Clergy will help with giving couple direction.)